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What if you could control your desires and dangle them out in front of you, like a cartoon of someone chasing a hotdog 🌠tied out in front of them on a fishing rod 🎣.
What could you get yourself to do?
I know desire by her absence
As to say I know god
By what god isn’t
As to say alcohol sanitizes
when it evaporates from my skin
And what then, when she is in my arms
Will I crave her any less
Will I assume I know
The other side of once locked doors
When she lets go of my skin
Will my soul remain on it’s dirt path
Or will she pave my veins with marble
Will she assemble my pile of pieces
Into beating shrapnel
Will she lead my soul to stardom
Amongst mortal men of immortal wisdom
Can I ever know desire
The way she knows when my strength trembles
And my legs give out
The way the cold knows my shiver
When my lungs give in to winter
Lord give her strength
To hold up this crumbling heart
To sanitize my past
And pace my future
With every step I feel lighter
Shedding fear
I find her
-A
Have you ever woken up, wanting?
Desire is sexy.
Desire is powerful.
Desire is a pull, motivating you.
It’s easier to be pulled than to be pushed.
Identifying Your Desires
Eating?
Spending?
Sex?
You can’t judge yourself for what you want.
You have to accept and love yourself.
Sustaining Desire
All desire is sustainable, if you have the strength.
First, acknowledge where the desire is coming from.
Is it genuine or impulsive?
What would it fulfill?
Second, accept your desires.
You already want it, whatever “it” is, so accept that it’s there for a reason.
It’s okay to want things.
Third, intentionally delay the desire.
Do not allow yourself to impulsively act.
This is intentional delay.
You have to resist in order to truly benefit.
Fourth, thorough and paced satisfaction.
You’ve waited an appropriate amount of time.
Reward yourself, at a pace that does the satisfaction justice.
Why rush through something so good?
Pacing Enjoyment for Satisfaction
I like to think of learning as opening doors for yourself.
Once you open a door, you reveal more doors.
It’s learning what you don’t know; what more there is to learn.
The more you know, the less you know.
It can be daunting, realizing what’s in front of you.
There is a bliss in ignorance.
There is also a bliss in desire.
Delaying the fulfillment of your desire builds excitement and prevents you from learning too quickly.
It makes the eventual enjoyment all the more satisfying.
Delay is Your Filter
Sometimes, the delay filters out things you didn’t genuinely desire.
If you wait, you will realize what was an impulse desire and what stuck.
The best desires stick for days.
The intention behind controlling desire brings out more satisfaction.
You are In Control of Quality
When you learn the wisdom of identifying your desires,
When you learn the discipline of delaying yourself from prematurely enjoying your desires,
When you learn to extract further satisfaction by pacing,
You are in control of the quality of your desire.
You are In Control
Desire is motivating.
Understanding your desires allows you to begin having control over what motivates you.
With control over motivation, you can get yourself to do the things that require an incentive.
This is not a life hack.
This is clarity.
Seeing through the lens of what motivates you allows you to see why and where you get fulfillment in life.
Remember, the important desires stick around for days.
If it’s worth obsessing over, it’s worth enjoying properly.
If you would do me the honor, I would love to hear from you.
What do you desire most often?
How do you deal with not getting what you desire most?
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Andrey Starostin
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